Comfort Zones Make you Lazy

We all have them, don’t we? How do you manage yours?

If like me, you might be allowing your comfort zone to dictate a bit more than it should. The past year has been crazy and we all have read and experienced enough to not want to hear more about the pandemic. But wait, did you use it to let your motivation and drive slide away? I did. When this new year started, I was determined to not let opportunities pass me by this year. I want to do more with my writing, I want to be recognised for the work I do. Don’t we all, I hear you say, yet what have you done to achieve this?

I made my forever near me, to-do list, (You can read about this in my previous post, ) and added my dreams and hopes for this year.

When I was offered an opportunity to engage with my local community using my writing experience I accepted it without much thought. I knew if I left it to ferment in my brain, I would find an excuse, my comfort zone was being challenged. This also meant if I was sharing my knowledge, then those who read my articles might very well want to read my novels. This led to my books needing to be in shops locally and beyond within the 5km rule due to lockdown. Once you step out from that zone of being safe, it leads to other stuff that needs handling. Challenging oneself is healthy, and I was being well challenged.

I dread asking shops to stock my books. For me it feels like Oliver Twist asking for more food. But if I want to make my writing dreams work, I need to bite this bullet. I approached the stores and was met with wonderful kindness and encouragement (why had I feared these encounters?). My legs wobble, my breathing quickens when I face the store managers, and it happens when it comes to returning to restock and invoice the stores for successful sales. Yet I walk out feeling I’ve conquered Mount Everest.

I was completely outside my comfort zone in doing the above. In the past it was easier to say, I’m a writer, not a marketing woman. But it is part of the business and I needed to push the cosy safe comfort zone to the side and take action. I published my second adult romance novella this month too, and I will share more about that in my next post, (This is the link if you want to buy a spicy hot over 18 read to cuddle up with ) This brings its own challenges.

What are your comfort zones? What is it that stops you from achieving a goal, or a wish you would like to see come true? It is easy to let our fear whisper to us, don’t do it, it’s not you to do this or that, and because we listen to this constant self criticism that we shove our hopes into the shadows. Consider what is the worst that can happen if you take the first step to conquer that dream? Pick the least difficult from your list, if it’s possible but fear holds you back, take a deep breath and go for it. One step at a time.

Comfort zones are there for us to feel safe but they are also a reminder that we need to live and take a chance, that something may feel out of our depth but hey, we might overcome it and what’s more enjoy the experience. The adrenalin from achieving what we thought we couldn’t do will be the reminder that turning our mountains into molehills is possible.

Photo courtesy of SuperValu, Charleville.


Published by marytbradford

Family is important to Mary and her writing reflects the ups and downs of it all, and what people go through daily. She has been writing short stories for several years and enjoys success with her fiction in magazines, newspapers, and anthologies both in Ireland and abroad, namely Germany, India, and the US. Her stories have been both short/long listed in various competitions. It was because of this success, Mary took the plunge and self-published her first collection of stories titled, A Baker’s Dozen (2012). When one of her stories kept growing she ended up with her first published novel, My Husband's Sin. This novel turned into a trilogy, with book 2, Don't Call Me Mum, and book 3, No More Secrets following it. Her latest novel, To Live With A Stranger, is based on her Grandmother's country cottage and is a firm favourite with readers. Mary continues to write novels, novellas, and short stories, dabbling too in playwrighting. In 2019, Mary attended the University of Limerick and studied for a MA in Creative Writing, receiving First Class Honours. When taking a break from writing and reading Mary loves to crochet. Living in County Cork, Ireland, she is married and is a mother of four children. Having overcome open heart surgery in 2008, Mary made the decision to dedicate more time to her writing. With her children raised and starting to spread their wings, this became possible. Now, Mary is also a Nana, a role that brings her happiness and lots of love.

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